joint or no joint?

the title is meant as a reference to how you file your taxes…

why – what were YOU guys thinking in meant? clean up, for christ’s sakes!!!

(only kidding)

but at my age, having never been married is looked at like some kind of social disease…but i don’t know if it’s really a bad thing. guess it all depends on who you marry.

allow me to explain…

i have a buddy who married a girl who’s…well…interesting. she’s fairly obnoxious. she’ll criticize co-workers for doing a poor job when she, in fact, is one of the poorer workers. she was part of a softball league and would yell at people for missing catches, hitting poorly, and so forth – but when the ball headed to her it never got caught. when she was up to bat her bat and the ball might as well have been in different zip codes – yet her criticism continued unabated. she was the ultimate sports (and everything critic) even though her skill set wouldn’t even get her into the special olympics, let alone the other ones.

she’s always been pretty sweet to me, but other people in my work crew can’t stand her. the other night something occured to me…

…where does her husband fit into all this?

he not only has to go home with her, sleep in the same bed with her, and raise kids with her – he has to witness this behavior and, for lack of a better term, support it. he has to stick by her side and support her behavior even though he (assuming no head injury is in his past that i’m unaware of) has to see it’s wrong and, well, stupid.

i don’t know if i could do that.

i’ve always thought being married would be cool (some of my married friends may disagree) but i would have to be with someone cool who i genuinely enjoyed being around, and genuinely enjoyed being with – in and out of the bedroom. i don’t think i could silently apologize for every other phrase that seeped out of my wife’s mouth. if any of my married readers are in this situation, how do you do it? i’m honestly curious…